The Love Wife is Gish Jen's third novel. It examines the relationships among an All-American white woman and her Chinese-American husband, her mother-in-law, and her children. Take a look at the publisher's summary:
Here is Carnegie Wong, second-generation Chinese American warm heart and funny guy. Here is his WASP wife, the delicious "za-za-vavoomy" Blondie. Here are their two adopted Asian daughters, and their half-half bio son. And here is Mama Wong, Carnegie's no-holds-barred mother, who, eternally opposed to his marriage, has arranged from her grave for a mainland Chinese relation to come look after the kids. Is this woman, as Carnegie claims, a nanny? Or is she, as Blondie fears, something else?I read this novel in the summer of 2006; thus I don't remember the details. According to my reading notes, the characters are well developed, and the plot held my attention. However, Blondie is a bit too stereotypically WASP-ish and is not very assertive, which lessened my sympathy for her. On the other hand, the dynamics of the intersecting cultures and generations were interesting. I noted that the ending left me hanging, and not in a particularly good way.
What happens as Carnegie and Blondie try to incorporate the ambiguous new arrival into their already complicated lives is touchingly, brilliantly, intricately told.
When I was writing this post last night, I discovered that there was a Reading Group Guide for the novel. I looked over the questions and realized that The Love Wife would probably make a great book club choice. Jen brings up a number of interesting issues that could generate good discussions. I originally rated the novel a B-, but as a book club choice, I would consider it a solid B or even a B+.
The cover shows the 2004 Random House edition. (Source: bought; see review policy)
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Reading at the Beach is the host for this meme: Each week she invites us to spotlight a book whose title begins with the featured letter. This week it's L.
I enjoyed the audio version but, since it's been several years, don't remember very much about it.
ReplyDeleteThe letter L is producing some good books! It sounds like one I will like!
ReplyDeleteSo funny about your grade changing. When I started reviewing books, I realized that my grades are higher when I have to "analyze" the book. I definitely think you don't have to love a book for it to make a great book club read!
ReplyDeleteIt is a great idea to have made a few notes after reading a book. I am like you, many books I don't remember much about a few years down the road.
ReplyDeleteI'd never heard of this book, but I might have to give it a try. Thanks for the review!
ReplyDeleteI'm amazed that you kept such detailed notes. I think it would be interesting to explore the differences in the couple's cultures.
ReplyDeleteSounds very interesting. I've never read Gish Jen. I think I'll put this on my WL!
ReplyDeleteThanks for playing!
This one is totally new to me, but sounds very interesting! I love anything dealing with family dynamics and identity. Thanks for the intro to it! :) And I'm impressed you make/keep notes, too; I'm terrible about that...
ReplyDeleteI like stories about inter-cultural families. This one sounds very interesting. You are to be admired for all those book notes you've kept over the years. I envy you that collection.
ReplyDeletetalk about an interfering mother in law. She has a long reach. If you want to wander down my road I’m home.
ReplyDeleteNever heard of the author or the book, but looks like one I might enjoy. Thanks for the book recommendation!
ReplyDelete==lennie==
My L book is HERE
I'm impressed that you can remember so much about a book you read years ago. Until I started my blog, I did not take any notes and relying on my memory is not always so fruitful!
ReplyDeleteI read this pre-blog and while I remember enjoying the story, it hasn't stood out. I barely remember Blondie.
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